All of us want a guarantee. We want our partner to guarantee their love for us until the end. We want guaranties we will stay healthy, although we may not be taking care of ourselves. We even want a guarantee when we begin our inner journey. With no guarantee of connecting with our true selves, we may not want begin. We may also want a guarantee that we will not feel any pain as we peel back the layers of our false persona.

There are few guaranties in life. One is, concrete will eventually crack. Another, is at some point we will close our eyes for the last time. Everything else is up to each of us to determine.

You may disagree. But think about it, my partner cannot guarantee her endless love if I treat her poorly. My health is not guaranteed if I indulge in harmful substances. Nor can I guarantee knowing my true self, if I choose not to do the inner work. Can we guarantee anything in life? Maybe so.

I can guarantee that if I blame others for the way my life has turned out, I will never live a fulfilling life. We could also guarantee that if we don’t challenge ourselves in some way, we will never know our true potential.

It seems the list of things we can guarantee grows when we fail to take action to improve our lives. If we don’t take responsibility for how our life is going, we can almost guarantee we will create a victim personality. Guaranteeing a life lacking in true happiness and love.

If we don’t train, we can guarantee we won’t finish the race. If we are too afraid to write that book, we can guarantee our story will never be published. If we can’t learn to love ourselves we are guaranteed a life of unsatisfying relationships.

Looking at it this way, if we want guarantees in life we must do something. Sounds a bit dramatic but think about it. What goals have you reached by doing nothing? What did you accomplished by getting off the couch and started to follow your dreams? See the difference?

When we want a guarantee before we begin anything we are setting ourselves up for failure. We think the guarantee will save us from failing, but it may limit the way we accomplish any task. A guarantee of not failing prevents us from learning the important lessons failure teaches. We may also miss opportunities that present themselves when we are working ourselves out of a difficult situation. A guarantee of not failing, does not guarantee success or happiness.

The interesting thing about life is, no one owes us anything. There are no guarantee we will be treated with dignity and respect if we treat others poorly. Although if we are arrogant and brash we are almost guaranteed others will treat us poorly. Yet when we are loving and kind to others, more than likely we will be treated similarly.

Guaranties come in many forms. Do we guarantee we will take care of our own physical, emotional, and spiritual health? If not? Why not? All facets of our health are solely our responsibility. If we can’t make that guarantee with ourselves, then what does that tell us about how we feel about ourselves?

Do we love ourselves enough to guarantee we will do everything in our power to live our best life possible? Imagine how life would change if we looked in the mirror every day and told ourselves we guarantee we will do whatever is needed to live to the fullness of who we are meant to be. In a short amount of time we would notice a tremendous shift in our life.

Our guarantee could come in small increments, bite size pieces making it easier to accomplish. Rather than to say we will run a marathon, could guarantee we will walk every morning for fifteen minutes. This makes our goal attainable, while maintaining our guarantee to ourselves. If we guarantee to much, we have a greater chance of failing because we over extended ourselves.

We can make many small life changing guaranties with ourselves that will benefit us in ways we cannot imagine. We can guarantee we will try to be kind and compassionate to those who challenge us. In this way we maintain a higher state of awareness while keeping our promise to ourselves.

The crux is to not get down on ourselves when we break our guarantee with ourselves. We just get up brush off the dirt and begin anew. It may not be easy at first to keep a guarantee with ourselves. But the more we practice, the more we strengthen our resolve to maintain this loving contract with ourselves.

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Can we love ourselves even though we have broken a guarantee with ourselves? When we love ourselves, is it easier to keep our guarantee? It seems self-love is the glue that holds us to our guarantee. Is it possible to love ourselves so deeply we never have to worry about breaking our word to ourselves?

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